"99.99% marriage is just misery.. but I have nothing against marriage"

This is what I heard from a friend whom I met up for dinner when I was in Melbourne (yes! i am back!). He is a dear friend as we have known each other for a long time but never close and it was the first time we actually sat down alone to chat. It was certainly very good to catch up with him and he is just such a gentleman. We spent the time during dinner talking about absolutely everything and of course naturally one topic fall on marriage and relationship. It is funny when he said that 99.99% of marriage end up in misery but he has nothing against marriage. Well... that statement, to me, sounded like he is 99.99% against marriage. He did say that he hope mine is within 0.01% (i hope so too.. so far so good). Relationship is something really very amazing.. because it is always subjective. I realised that the level of your understanding and feeling towards relationship especially in the love department changes as you get older (mainly influenced by your experiences in life).

I am one of those lucky ones who has my 1st boyfriend as my last and he is my hubby now (coming Jan we will be celebrating our 8th anniversary). However, I do understand (or more accurately describe as I can imagine) how you feel if you are one of those who go through numerous relationships (or might still be searching for the Mr Right). When I was young, my perception of love is very pure (I think generally we were like this once), it is either love or no love.. no grey area and it is a BIG deal plus everything must be absolutely clear, either right or wrong. At that age, I would never understand why there is a saying that "love is never right or wrong"... However, I find that as I get older, I begin to understand a lot of things. Just like on Friday I was listening to the radio and someone on air said this: "It was because of not understanding hence brought my first girlfriend and I together, but it is because of understanding each other than has caused our break-up". This is actually very philosophical, but it is really true. Of course all these are specifically on love. Marriage however is a different subject all together. Marriage can have right and wrong. To me, marriage is a commitment of a life time promise you gave to each other. It is not just a piece of paper. In the modern world we are staying now, marriage has become something different, has a different quality. Sad..

Nevertheless I still believe in fairy tale ending, the happily ever after. Do you?