Interpretation

When different people listen or read the same thing be it a book, speech, conversation..etc, we will interpret the general content the same. However, there is something called "reading between the lines". Well i think this phrase do apply to listening too and this interpretation is very different from individual to individual. Sometimes a question asked with an innocent intention, perhaps just purely would like to know the answer out of curiosity. Or a remark is made just because of curiosity or difference in working style. However the person who this question (or remark) is directed (intentionally or unintentionally) to might interpret the reason behind this question/remark wrongly. This is when miscommunication and sometimes arguments arise. Do you think when we have a problem with another person we should talk it through honestly and immediately when the problem arise? And after the so call "chat" everything is back to normal with the changes needed for better relationship? Is everything really normal? Can it truly be forgiven and forgotten? In addition, i also have a recent theory that it is because how we interpret the "between the lines" meaning differently, hence our memory of what has been said or done can be different. When confronted with " you have said this on this day..etc" can we really remember that we have truly said that and on the day or time when we have said what? Could it be that it is because we didn't confront the person at the time when misinterpretation happened and hence will cause misunderstanding and leads to break-down of relationship? It certainly not a nice feeling to be accused of something you cannot remember. Hmm.. perhaps i should even use the word "accuse" because it might be that you have said but just cannot remember. Sigh... So how careful should we be in speaking? If we always need to tip toe around a certain person and be ultra careful or our action and speech, will this make us not ourselves? Are we being fake and full of pretence? Perhaps the solution is not to talk at all. HA! But this will lead to another problem - not enough communication and hence break-down of relationship. There is just no perfect solution is there?